What A Sticky Situation?!?!

Ok so I am going to set the scene for you on this one:

We were at the Children's Hospital one Friday night from 10:00-5:30am because of Tornado's asthma. This is the second visit in 3 months.

I tried to prevent the situation by going to our family doctor, who will now be called quackadoodledoo, in the afternoon that day BUT he just prescribed double the dose of oral steroids. When I questioned him on the dose he simply said "Well his lungs have to get better some how and fast." SO me being the dummy said "Oh so it is a catch situation here." He jumped at the chance to agree with that in a second. He would not do anything for the fact that Tornado could not breath all that well at that point in time. I must also point out the fact that he had used his blue inhaler 6 times from 7pm-1100am, 2 puffs each time.

So we leave and I sit and brew on the fact that quackadoodledoo had prescribed my son so much oral steroids, when it had only been a few months since our hospital visit. He had not gained any weight in that time period. I knew too much steroids could harm you. I also understood his asthma needed to be controlled. I was lost.

Throughout the day he was needing his inhaler every 1.5hrs-2hrs. After he took it he would sound great, well not great but he could breathe a lot better, but than shortly after BAM!! it got worse again. It was a whirlwind all day long. We went back and forth on what to do. In the end we ended up at the hospital.

At the hospital we were told that the oral steroid dose should not have been prescribed and he should have sent us to the Children's Hospital in the afternoon. That settled it right there for us, NO MORE QUACKADOODLEDOO!! We got a referral to the Asthma Clinic from the Respiratory Specialist and were told to try to get a pediatrician for Tornado. Also, to get a follow up in a week with the family doctor. LOL Well that ain't happening so what do we do!!

It is now Wednesday and Tornado's asthma is still acting up. I get a phone call from the Asthma Clinic!! WOW they have his appointment for Monday!! Such great news!! His follow up can be with them!! They might be able to help us get Tornado into a pediatrician!! Relief has been felt.

But not for long...

I email and text the two parents of the children that I watch during the day explaining the situation. One is very understanding and the other seems very annoyed. She is telling me she doesn't want to lose her job...OVER ONE DAY...that ain't gonna happen. I understand it is short notice and well it sucks if it is not for yourself or your family. BUT put yourself in my shoes...you would take that time off in a heart beat for your son/daughter's health.

She emailed me some very hurtful emails and most of the information she put in them were lies or excuses.

• She said I was taking advantage of her. Here is my side: I only charge her 25/day for each child, that included all food/drinks/snacks!! All she had to provide was diapers and wipes and a change of clothes.



• She said I caused her stress by taking days off. BUT there were conditions for her being allowed back into our home, after she begged us to take the boys back in August because the day home she had left her child and walked out!! She was to take every second Friday off, that lined up with the other mom, and that day I would volunteer at Tornado's preschool and book all appointments. WELL she just booked one Friday out of all the ones until January that was on that list!! I had to rearrange and stress about my appointments just to accommodate her. Now I must also point out that she would not miss work on these days because she had 2 days off a month.



• The night I told her about the appointment she told me her son was saying things but never brought them up. I was shocked at this!! How am I supposed to fix the situation if you don't tell me until now!! One issue was scratches on D's face...well Tornado and D would wrestle...THEY ARE BOYS!! Am I not supposed to let them have fun?!?! She said D said Tornado was mean to him but didn't want to say anything to me because I would get defensive. WHAT THE HELL are you talking about??!!!??? I DO NOT agree with any child, especially mine, being mean to anyone and she knew that SO I have no idea what the heck she was talking about.



• In the end she told me I was being immature about this subject. I have email the emails to the other mom that was here to get an outside option and she is shocked!! She told me I was being professional about it and fair and had no idea why K would say such hurtful things. I thought that would make me feel better but it did not.
  

In the end we were, what I thought, close friends. So I never raised her rates when she came back from Maternity leave with the boys, the rate went up $100/mth. Payment is supposed to be every second week, but she wanted the 1st and 15th which did not work for me BUT I let it go. I would wash her youngest sons clothes/coat/blanket because he was filthy dirty from the ride in because she would let him eat in the car seat. (poptarts, berries with whip cream etc. nothing clean!!) I would wash her oldest sons clothes when he peed and pooped in his clothes and give him a shower down so he didn't stink. Oh my I did lots for her!!

The worst part of this story is that when she screwed me in August and begged to come back EVERYONE told me not to take them back. We would have to buy a van to transport them all to and from preschool. I would have to wake up early because she would drop them off before I was open. She didn't think twice before throwing my under the carpet than what would be different in the future. OH the list goes on and on as to why everyone told me not too!!

BUT silly me did not listen. Now here I am having to swallow my pride and admit I was wrong. I have lost a close friend out of it, but really was she that good of a friend if she said all this and treated me so poorly. We are stuck with a van payment now that we could have lived without. Lesson has been learnt...at least I hope so!! I often forget about all the times I have been burned because I think with my heart and not my head.

The saddest part was when she came to pick up the boys all she said was "There should be 1 or 2 more cups" I had all her things packed up in a box for her and the cups I handed her were just the ones the boys used for the day. BUT really why would I want to keep your things?!?! Did she really think I would go that low!! Whatever on with the story. She packed up the boys with only saying that to me and headed out the door. Tornado went running to the front door screaming at the top of his lungs "WAIT D I want to say good bye. WAIT WAIT WAIT" over and over again. How heart breaking. :( She never let the boys say goodbye instead just ignored him. They have been friends for 2 years and this is how you let it end for them. Do it to me but PLEASE don't ever do it to an innocent child.

SO that is how it went because I had to close for one day to go to a specialist appointment!! Being pregnant I am trying to forget the stress and move on.